Dua and Afroze talk about how the burden of a dignified society is always placed on the woman’s shoulders, be it in the west or the east. The notion that the west looks at Muslim countries and views the culture in which women covering is the norm somehow suggests that muslim societies are oppressive and immoral, we see the east on the opposite end of the spectrum; maintaining the notion that women being exposed in the west are too indignified and immoral. However, we see the standards of the f***boy culture existing across all societies. Attitudes on sex being very unforgiving towards women, be it in America or in the Middle East. Not only do we see this double standard on a social level, but in the bedroom as well.
Let’s face it, for women, there is no winning. The night of marriage, the expectations often placed on a woman who has chosen to be modest all her life is that she lose the timidness and discomfort and do as her husband pleases. On the flipside, we discuss the instance of a fully formed woman who has been married before in which she is ridiculed in the bedroom for knowing exactly what she wants and being confident. There are no expectations for men. Women are not afforded the same neutrality or dismissive attitude towards the sexual excursions that men from all societies engage in.
A great poet by the name of @Sara.Bawany puts it perfectly: the doubling down of a clean Muslim image for so many men, and the playboy tactics they use behind closed doors.
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